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Subject: No Interest in SexQUESTION: I was in a relationship with a man for 8 years that hardly ever wanted to have sex with me. The first few years he was interested; but then he constantly made excuses not to. Many times I also walked in on him masturbating. He would get out of bed in the middle of the night and sneek into his computer room to jack off. I found out what the problem was when I discovered hundreds of child porn pictures and movies on a cd he burned. I'm too old for him. (I'm 39 now). He is currently serving 2-8 years in prision for possession of child sexually abusive material. He says he has had his "problem" before I ever met him. I had no idea. REPLY: That is quite a distressing tale. It raises a couple of issues. First off, it is common, and healthy, for males to continue to masturbate throughout their lives. This is NOT a reflection of not wanting a partner, it is just a normal part of male sexuality. They should not, however, do this at the expense of their partners. The bigger issue in your email is child porn. The Internet has been a real boon to child porn addicts, and subsequently, the abuse of children. The question is, what to do about it? It is so rampant that I think we need to deal with the fundamental problem - why do guys want to see children in sexual situations in the first place? Since I am not a mental health expert, I can't answer that, but I do think that maybe an ad campaign or better education would make it more real to potential offenders that this is not a harmless preoccupation - children's emotional lives are being ruined. Men are quite capable of empathy and they can understand someone else's pain - and I don't think locking them up addresses the root problem. But we also are absolutely required to keep kids safe. - KT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . [ submit a tip/comment for this question here ] | [ submit a new question here ] User Submitted Tips/Comments: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
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